"I can imagine it'd create this constant fear and wondering and wanting more.But," he continued, "if your friend ever wants to have a real deep connection with someone, that's certainly not the way to do it." Another guy friend concurred."When a girl doesn't text me," he said, "her silence tells me something.In my research with gay men, I've found that many wait for their lives to start until the right guy comes along, think that a relationship will somehow fix what they dislike about their lives, and/or assume that a relationship will be the key to status and self esteem. Feeling bad about not having a successful relationship is baggage that you don't want to carry into a new romance.I can understand why you'd feel scared or insecure, but letting those fears take over is giving in to pessimism.There's this overwhelming fear that if we show our true enthusiasm for someone, we'll lose our power.
So ask yourself why you feel needy: Could it be that part of your pattern is expecting too much from or pinning unrealistic demands on the man you date?It's tells me: ." So, it seems, in his case, the girl is sitting there wondering why the guy isn't texting, and the guy is sitting there wondering why the girl isn't texting.Clearly, the dating game calls for a heaping dose of authenticity. While it seems not everything needs to be said - we don't need to gush everything right away or have intense "talks" from the get go -- we would do well to just be .The truth is that security comes from within and no boyfriend can give you the refuge you crave in a relationship if you don't feel secure about yourself.